He paid dark web hackers to access his social media accounts and created a creepy TikTok account dedicated to him
A teenager left ‘petrified’ by her driving instructor who turned into a stalker – paying dark web hackers to access her social media accounts – says she’s glad her bully hasn’t been jailed because he “needs help”.
Graham Mansie, 52, was given a suspended sentence earlier this month for harassing his former student.
Speaking for the first time, Maisie Relph, 19, said she was happy he was helped and not punished.
A court heard how he became obsessed with the 17-year-old while teaching her to drive.
She said at first that she had no concerns with his behavior, but after his 18th birthday he changed.
Stalker created a TikTok account “For Maisie”
Mansie invited the teenager for a drink and created a TikTok account called ‘For Maisie’ which featured a red heart emoji and ‘my favourite’ bio.
He also taught about 15 of his friends to drive and gave another student a gift bag to pass on to her, it was said, containing £65 in restaurant vouchers.
The present basket had a bone keychain with her dog’s name on it and even a Uni of York sign – the city she was to move to.
When the victim blocked Mansie on all social media and stopped learning to drive with him, his car was spotted on his way.
Even when she moved to York University, he followed her electronically – creating a fake Instagram account claiming to be an 18-year-old student named Ben Williams.
He even joined a WhatsApp group for his residencies.
And he showed up in the city despite not entering his accommodation, it was said – and was arrested soon after.
When questioned, he also admitted to police that he used the dark web and paid hundreds of pounds to try to hack into his social media accounts.
Maisie was forced to face him in court before he changed his guilty plea.
Graham Mansie given suspended sentence
He was given an eight-week prison sentence suspended for a year at Bromley Magistrates’ Court.
He was told to complete 30 days of rehab and go to the Stalking Threat Assessment Center for help.
And he was banned from contacting the victim for the rest of his life and told to pay the court £300 costs and a victim surcharge of £128.
The court was told he had already breached his bail conditions twice by contacting her on Instagram and WhatsApp.
“I think he needs help, not being locked up”
Maisie, an educational psychology student from Bromley, said: ‘It was a nightmare that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.
“I want to raise awareness because I would have stopped my classes much earlier if I had read a story like this.
“In my classes he used to say things like ‘oh, I’ll add that to the file’, and I always thought it was a joke, but now I wonder if he had a file on me.
“The police still haven’t told me everything they found on his computer.
“It’s really shocking and I’m still terrified, but I think he needs help, not being locked up.
“I’m so glad he’s getting help with the therapy sessions, and the lifetime restraining order gives me peace of mind.”
“If he had gone to jail, I would only worry about him getting out, and they said he will go to jail for five years if he breaks the order, so I’m pretty confident he will. will hold it.
“It’s a win-win, he will be helped and I feel relieved, as do all my friends and housemates and their families, who are also affected.”
He called her his favorite and invited her for a drink
Maisie signed up for 10 lessons with Mansie, from Beckenham, in July 2020 and ended up having 32 in total.
Mansie, 33 years older than the sixth elder, taught about 15 of his friends who had all passed their tests and recommended him.
The then year 13 schoolgirl took a break from weekly driving lessons in November during the Covid 19 lockdown and started again in April 2021, just after her 18th birthday.
But Mansie’s behavior towards her had changed, she said.
He started calling her his favorite, invited her out for a drink and talked for much of the two-hour lessons about wanting to be in a relationship with someone, she recalls.
Baffled, but eager to sit her exam booked for the end of May, the schoolgirl continued with her now twice-weekly lessons, but refused the offer of drinks.
“When we resumed classes, I had the feeling that something was wrong”
When she didn’t pass her test, Mansie cried and said he couldn’t teach her anymore, she said.
Confused, Maisie said it wasn’t her fault and he booked her a second test for the end of September, so she arranged a series of lessons starting again in August.
Maisie said: “At first he was completely normal – none of my friends had any problems with him: I thought he was very reliable.
“When we resumed classes, I had the feeling that something was wrong.
“He started going ‘oh you’re my favourite, you’re my favourite.’
“I thought to myself this really doesn’t look good” but it was so hard to get a test and an instructor that I thought I was going to be okay, I really didn’t think it would get any worse .
“Then the Tik Tok seemed a bit crazy – the content was just driving tips, but it really made me feel uncomfortable.
“And you’re not saying how badly you want to be in a relationship with your 18-year-old student – I would never go there.
“The fact that he cried when I failed my test made me feel extremely uncomfortable, and when he set up Insta, things were really bad.”
“He used the dark web to ask people to hack into his private messages”
The teenager then received a request for a random account on Instagram in July, and Mansie messaged that he created it to show how many days until he sees her again.
When she accepted it, she saw it was 28 days, he then deleted it, she said.
One of his friends said he kept telling them he had a student he wanted to have a relationship with, and another said he gave weekly updates on the development of a potential relationship, she says.
She then became terrified when she received a message telling her that he had joined her WhatsApp student group at the University of York on October 8.
Police believe he located it through his Facebook and pretended to be a student to gain access.
Prosecuting Denise Clewes told the court during Mansie’s sentencing: ‘In September 2021 she moved to York. He managed to join a WhatsApp group for his residencies with a profile for an 18-year-old boy.
“He made friends with all his room mates.
“He used the dark web to ask people to hack into his private messages to see what he was up to. He lost hundreds of pounds trying to do this.
“On October 31, 2021, he traveled to York by train. He left his residence but did not enter.
“His father called the police and the accused was arrested on November 3.”
“I was completely petrified”
“I was absolutely petrified,” Maisie said. “He knew exactly where I was.
“It was really scary! I slept in my roommates rooms, I was so scared.
“They accompanied me everywhere, so I was never alone. I am so lucky that they were so supportive and caring.
“I was really, really worried.”
Maisie changed her clothes and cut her hair into a bob after police advised her to change her appearance while Mansie was out on bail.
He got in touch with her via Whatsapp to say “you just killed me” before disappearing for two days.
Maisie said: ‘I felt so threatened and was playing when he said I killed him. I didn’t want to be responsible for the fact that he committed suicide. I was so upset.
“I was terrified when he disappeared, I thought he was looking for me and I didn’t feel safe, bail meant nothing to him, it made me wonder what else he could do .”
She added: “He’s not a bad person, but […] he is absolutely obsessed, and he needs help, not punishment.
“I’m still worried about what he might do next – people can have stalkers for years.
“Emily Maitlis has had one for 25 years who has been back and forth in prison.
“It’s a fixation and an obsession, and going in and out of prison doesn’t help, and we better invest in some sort of treatment.
“What he is doing is definitely wrong, but he was a nice, normal man that so many people had respect for and he lost it all.
“I wonder if all the lockdowns weren’t good for him and if he got very lonely.”