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Student, 19, harassed by 52-year-old driving instructor, says she’s ‘happy’ he’s not behind bars

A teenage girl left ‘petrified’ after her driving instructor became obsessed and created a TikTok account dedicated to her, says she’s ‘happy’ he hasn’t been jailed as he can now access the help he needs.

Graham Mansie, 52, from Beckenham, was given a suspended sentence earlier this month for harassing his former student Maisie Relph, 19.

Speaking for the first time since his conviction, Maisie said she was happy he was helped and not punished.

A court heard how he became obsessed with the 17-year-old while teaching her to drive in Bromley.

Maisie Relph, 18, from Bromley, has spoken for the first time since her driving instructor Graham Mansie, 52, received a suspended sentence for harassing her earlier this month.

She said at first that she had no concerns with his behavior, but after his 18th birthday he changed.

Mansie invited the teenager over for a drink and created a TikTok account called “For Maisie” which featured a red heart emoji and the bio description, “my favourite.”

He taught about 15 of his friends to drive and gave another student a gift bag to pass on to her, it was said, containing £65 in restaurant vouchers.

This basket contained a key chain with a bone with the name of her dog and a sign of the University of York, where she was to move.

Maisie, who was 17 when she first met Graham Mansie, said to herself

Maisie, who was 17 when she first met Graham Mansie, said she was ‘happy’ the driving instructor had received a suspended sentence, so he could access the help he needed requires.

When the victim blocked Mansie on all social media and stopped learning to drive with him, his car was spotted on his way.

Even when she moved to college, he followed her electronically, creating a fake Instagram account claiming to be an 18-year-old college student named Ben Williams.

He even joined a WhatsApp group for his residencies.

Mansie arrived in the city but did not enter her accommodation and was arrested shortly thereafter.

When questioned, he admitted to police that he used the dark web and paid hundreds of pounds to try to hack into his social media accounts.

Brave Maisie was forced to face him in court before he changed his guilty plea.

Graham Mansie was given an eight-week suspended prison sentence, ordered to pay court costs and banned from contacting the victim for the rest of his life

Graham Mansie was given an eight-week suspended prison sentence, ordered to pay court costs and banned from contacting the victim for the rest of his life

He was given an eight-week prison sentence suspended for a year at Bromley Magistrates’ Court, was ordered to complete 30 days of rehabilitation and report to the Stalking Threat Assessment Center for assistance.

On top of that, Mansie was banned from contacting the victim for the rest of his life and ordered to pay the court £300 costs, plus a victim fine surcharge of £128.

The court was told he had already breached his bail conditions twice by contacting her on Instagram and WhatsApp.

Maisie, an educational psychology student from Bromley, south-east London, said: ‘It was a nightmare that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.

“I want to raise awareness, because I would have stopped my classes much earlier if I had read a story like this.

“In my classes he used to say things like, ‘Oh, I’ll add that to the record,’ and I always thought it was a joke, but now I wonder if he had a file on me.

“The police still haven’t told me everything they found on his computer.

Maisie said she was

Maisie said she was “terrified” by Mansie’s actions, which included creating a dedicated TikTok account for her and paying dark web hackers to access her social media accounts.

“It’s really shocking and I’m still terrified, but I think he needs help, not being locked up.

“I’m so glad he’s getting help with the therapy sessions, and the lifetime restraining order gives me peace of mind.”

“If he had gone to jail, I would only worry about him getting out, and they said he will go to jail for five years if he breaks the order, so I’m pretty confident he will. will hold it.

“It’s a win-win – he will get help and I feel relieved, as do all my friends and housemates and their families, who are also affected.”

Maisie signed up for ten lessons with Mansie, from Beckenham, south-east London, in July 2020 and ended up having 32 in total.

Maisie said of her former driving instructor:

Maisie said of her former driving instructor: ‘He’s not a bad person but he’s absolutely obsessed and needs help not punishment’

Mansie, 33 years older than the sixth elder, taught about 15 of his friends who had all passed their tests and recommended him.

The schoolgirl then in Year 13 took a break from weekly driving lessons in November during the Covid 19 lockdown and started again in April 2021, just after her 18th birthday.

But Mansie’s behavior towards her had changed, she said.

He started calling her his favorite, invited her out for a drink and talked for much of the two-hour lessons about wanting to be in a relationship with someone, she recalls.

Baffled, but eager to sit her exam booked for the end of May, the schoolgirl continued with her now twice-weekly lessons, but refused the offer of drinks.

When she didn’t pass her test, Mansie cried and said he couldn’t teach her anymore, she said.

Confused, Maisie said it wasn’t her fault and he booked her a second test for the end of September, so she arranged a series of lessons starting again in August.

The 52-year-old showered Maisie with unwanted gifts and toured her college halls in York

The 52-year-old showered Maisie with unwanted gifts and toured her college halls in York

Maisie said: “At first he was completely normal – none of my friends had a problem with him.” I thought he was very reliable.

“When we resumed classes, I had the feeling that something was wrong.

“He started going, ‘Oh, you’re my favorite, you’re my favorite.

“I thought ‘this really doesn’t seem right’, but it was so difficult to get a test and an instructor that I thought I would see him. I really didn’t think it would get any worse.

“Then the Tik Tok seemed a bit crazy – the content was just driving tips, but it made me really uncomfortable.

“And you don’t say how badly you want to be in a relationship with your 18-year-old student. I would never go there.

‘[Seeing] the fact that he cried when I failed my test made me feel extremely uncomfortable, and when he made the Insta, things were really bad.

The teenager then received a request for a random account on Instagram in July, and Mansie messaged that he created it to show how many days until he sees her again.

When she accepted it, she saw it was day 28, he then deleted it, she said.

One of his friends said he kept telling them he had a student he wanted to have a relationship with, and another said he gave weekly updates on the development of a potential relationship, she says.

She then became terrified when she received a message telling her that he had joined her WhatsApp student group at the University of York on October 8.

Police believe he located it through his Facebook and pretended to be a student to gain access.

Prosecuting Denise Clewes told the court during Mansie’s sentencing: ‘In September 2021 she moved to York. He managed to join a WhatsApp group for his residencies with a profile for an 18-year-old boy.

He made friends with all his room mates.

“He used the dark web to ask people to hack into her private messages to see what she was up to. He lost hundreds of pounds trying to do this.

“On October 31, 2021, he traveled to York by train. He walked outside his residences, but did not go inside.

“His dad called him saying ‘you’re a pervert’. He replied ‘I love your daughter, she’s 18.

“His father called the police and the accused was arrested on November 3.”

“I was absolutely petrified,” Maisie said. “He knew exactly where I was.

‘It was really scary. I slept in my roommates rooms, I was so scared.

“They accompanied me everywhere, so I was never alone. I am so lucky that they were so supportive and caring.

“I was really, really worried.”

Maisie changed her clothes and cut her hair into a bob after police advised her to change her appearance while Mansie was out on bail.

He was in contact with her via Whatsapp to tell her: “You just killed me”, before disappearing for two days.

Maisie said: “I felt so threatened and was playing when he said I killed him.” I didn’t want to be responsible for the fact that he committed suicide. I was so upset.

“I was terrified when he disappeared, I thought he was looking for me and I didn’t feel safe. Bail meant nothing to him, it made me wonder what else he could do.

She added: “He’s not a bad person, but he’s absolutely obsessed and he needs help, not punishment.”

“I’m still worried about what he might do next – people can have stalkers for years.

“It’s a fixation and an obsession, and going in and out of jail doesn’t help. We better invest in some sort of treatment.

“What he is doing is definitely wrong, but he was a nice, normal man that so many people had respect for and he lost it all.”