A pediatrician has found a unique way to solve the common problem of sibling rivalry. Dr. Daniel Golshevsky (aka Dr. Golly) says dads should switch roles with mom once baby number two arrives, with dads taking care of the newborn almost entirely.
Dr Goly is known as the “parent-whisperer” for his unique baby-settling techniques, but he’s not just a sleep expert. Dr Golly said: “One of the most common remarks after the birth of a second child is the deterioration in behavior that occurs in the older child – when the new addition reaches three months of age.
“Combined with the sleep deprivation of the neonatal stage, parents can find themselves with little attachment, quick to anger and struggling to juggle rapid family expansion. In short, they become cross-parents. But if the parents almost entirely swap parenting roles, with dad caring for the newborn while the mother cares for the toddler.
“With a breastfed baby, the singular act that a father cannot do is breastfeed that child, but everything else is not only possible – it’s actually preferable. Ask dad to perform all the baby’s tasks, from rolling up to changing and from settling in to the bath. .
“Mom is now free to rest, replenish milk if breastfeeding, recover from pregnancy/birth and most importantly spend consistent, frequent and quality time with her toddler, by making him feel that he remains the very center of his mother’s universe.This does not mean in any way damages the mother-baby bond, nor does it diminish the father-child bond.
“It also brings parents closer together, with more collaboration and communication within the family unit, and reduces maternal and paternal postnatal depression. Studies have shown that fathers’ brains actually change when caring for their newborns, so this Father’s Day, I urge all dads to give cross-parenting a chance. You’ll never regret it.
Dr Golshevsky is a Melbourne-based paediatrician, who along with a team of experts developed the Dr Golly Sleep program, an online sleep and facility course to help children (birth to five years old) sleep on a routine that works for families.